This is another idea created for you soon-to-be wedded couples.

Truth is, there are a lot of people getting married. I know, I host most of them in a year. If you were in my position going to different weddings for different people, you’ll see the contrast between each and every one of it. It’s practically the same, I just make it different so that I also enjoy the event. It’s called a celebration anyway.

So here’s another tip for you love birds, something for your garter retrieval or maybe something to do to keep your guests entertained. Hard fact of the matter is, unless you give your participants incentive or a reason to play this game, they will not play so best if you prepare prizes, or if you use this as your garter retrieval game for the single men or as replacement of the bouquet toss for the women, you got yourself a fun game.

The game is called PROPS! as the title suggests. The participants are split into pairs (or may be done individually), each given a different unusual prop. The pairs alternate at the prompting of the host’s buzzer, giving short scenes using their prop in a unique way. The game typically results in a series rapid-fire one- or two-liners, especially in later playings. Another way to run this is to hand out one prop at a time and use for each contestant. The contestant who can’t think of anything in a snap is considered out. The winner or the last man/woman standing gets to choose among the rest of the non-winning players who will take the garter from the lovely single woman.

To get what I’m talking about…

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I’ve taken a rest from the corporate world for about 3 months now focusing on my hosting career and it is refreshing. I’ve been on it for almost 7 years now and there’s still a long way to go. The topic just struck me today upon hearing about a former colleague getting demoted. I’m sure demotion rarely happens but it’s always the technical stuff that gets in the way.

From a bottom level encoder, my friend rose up to the ranks with experience and having the “streetwise attitude” and later on became a supervisor. While the pay wasn’t that much, you can tell the difference in rank by the job level you are given. Being more in the office and at the computer means you have more literacy and administration skills, doing the blue collar job stuff means you don’t. It still adapts the old organizational setup and very much patronizes the ones on top but that’s how they saw the system worked. It is just in the Philippines that the level differences are that big.

So I won’t really get into the details of the office problem my former colleague is facing but let’s just say part of the disagreement came from the subordinates’ inability to adapt and follow. I am a firm believer of “lead from behind” meaning, when it is not my turn to lead, I take a step back and follow who is in charge, regardless of the decision. In business, there is no perfect decision. Some leaders may be the greatest but being individuals created uniquely different apart from each other, we were raised and built differently thus, having different ideals and understanding of certain situations. What I’m trying to say is, you’ll not always meet eye to eye but someone is always placed on top and that person calls the shots. If that person isn’t the democratic type, then the rest have to deal.

I also always put in mind the saying “obey first before you complain.” A statement created during my time in ROTC in highschool wherein we had to obey what was commanded regardless of difficulty. It is a soldiers code to obey all commands of a ranking officer. It is highly applicable in real life where everyone complains endlessly. When I remember my days in my last corporate employer, I would always go back to my one-on-one talks with my former manager. It was only the two of us running the department so we had to be tight and work well together. I would always tell my boss that I always love to argue. I have lots of opinions but I also like to be lead. If my boss tells me this and can give me a good explanation why I have to do things a certain way, I obey. Do I agree? Not always, but I obey. When I have exhausted all possible means to the solution that was raised, then I give my feedback and return to my argument not to say “I told you so” but to re-evaluate the situation and make things work. That is the essence of “leading from behind”, you take the backseat first and do what you are told, when things don’t work and you’ve shown that you’ve done all you could, there’s no reason for your commander not to disengage and regroup and most definitely listen to you. This is when people see growth in you. This is how management see the potential leader in you.

An inexperienced worker / employee looks at a manager as someone who “commands” and someone who tells you what to do. They fail to notice that at the end of the day, these managers also have people to answer to. A husband, a wife, a senior manager, and they are expected to be better than their subordinates because they have the knowledge, the experience and leadership to meet their objectives. You have to earn RESPECT and not ATTENTION of your boss, it lasts longer. When you seek attention, you tend to kiss-ass, do things for granted and it is short lived. You get burned out easily because your reason is shallow, but if you work for respect, your dignity is on the line. And if you know how to earn it properly, not by a feud, not by competition, but by setting good examples and working hard, it lasts a lifetime and the impact it creates in the workplace resonates.

So to summarize, the challenge in the workplace for subordinates is to “OBEY BEFORE COMPLAINING”, believe me, it works a lot for you after (regardless of the shit you go through). You earn the RESPECT after that, you GROW and LEARN from the experience, you get GOOD RELATIONSHIP with you boss and they will see how MATURE you are as an employee. Be the example in your workplace for other people and set the bar high.

We have gone over a lot of wedding stuff, and if you’re preparing for your own, I’m sure you’ve heard and seen the parts of a program but do you really know what’s going on? Do you know the meaning of what you’re doing? I’m sure you’ll give me a 50% nod and still have no idea what it’s for.

Through this blog entry, I’ll try to explain some of the wedding programs’ symbolism (as cliché as it is) and give you some fresh ideas on what you can do to make it exciting or at least as memorable.

WC-Cutting-300x234One of the most common part of wedding receptions is the ceremonial cutting of the cake. The bride cuts the first piece together with the groom. It has come to symbolize the first task in the couple’s life together. Originally, the guests would take part of this to but as cakes became grander and guest lists get bigger, the task became quite unnerving. After cutting the cake, the bride and groom feed each other the first slice which symbolizes the mutual commitment to share and provide for each other. Two people as one facing life’s journey together. Wedding is a commitment to share whatever path life takes you on, with love and devotion, and the shared cutting of the first slice represents this commitment. Sharing of the cake to each other symbolizes your vows which means to love, honor and respect one another.

Lately, I have had requests from couples that I host to leave out the traditional symbolism spiels for the cake cutting and wine toast just because they find it senseless. I kind of agree that this spiel is just a waste of breath as no one intently listens to it and remembers so, I devised a way to spruce up this portion and make it more meaningful, to sum it up:

  • It is the first task in the couple’s life together
  • Commitment to each other
  • Sharing and providing for each other
  • Love and devotion
  • Sometimes, they even say that whomever eats the bigger slice in one bite rules the house.

So my suggestion here is to narrate to the crowd a simple mini-vow coming from the couple while they are doing the ceremonial cake cutting. A simple 1-minute testimonial for each other (bride and groom) telling each other how they plan to do this in their most simple, sincerest way. They may even get their cheesiest lines from their original vows (I would ask this from the couple but this means they would have to give me a copy of their vows which might be somewhat out of the way for them). This is good for the video and is cheesier (or generally saying, sweeter) way of pulling off the segment.

30University-Club-Chicago-Wedding-Sweetchic-Events-Second-Print-Productions.-Bride-and-Groom.-Wine-Toast.-Cheers.-680x453Next is the ceremonial toast. Again, it’s a tradition that almost all couples go through during a wedding reception unless they can get away with it. Basically, the wine represents two individual lives, and the intertwining arms while drinking it combines them into one single life. It also symbolizes passion and to some, fertility for each other coming into a married life.

It’s a day where we set aside whatever we find is corny and cheesy and overdone. It’s your day, you are licensed to be a cheese-ball and no one will care. So what we do instead is to tweak it to make it less traditional-ish. We do the same for the wine toast, another narrative of each other’s’ promise (such as in the vows) expression how they plan to keep each other passionately interested, how they see themselves in 50 years, what type of family scale do they wish, how do they envision their future to be, those things. It is to epitomize what they aspire to become as one unit.

I see these wedding reception segments from three point of views: the organizers’, the couples’ and the guests. To most, these are overused and traditionally pointless for our modernistic taste, but if we look deeper into its roots, the history of why we do this is very special yet then again, the basis is nothing but ritualistic. Every wedding that I go to whether I host or as a guest has their own take, their own style and treatment but at the end of the day, it all boils down to the two people (eventually as one) celebrating it. It doesn’t matter what the program is as long as it is done tastefully and in order, that’s the essence of preparing for the whole thing. The rest is just for documentation and memory.