Being a host, I always get my audience involved. I engage them with the program. They are the program and their opinions will build a bigger stage for me to play in. The better their participation, the smoother my program can run.

So here’s a little clincher that I need to get an outside perspective from.

I grow my facial hair for so many reasons…actually I only (really) have two:
1. People do not take me as seriously because they think I look young(er). This is flattering considering my real age but imagine the disadvantage when I’m in front of clients. If my eyes aren’t expressive enough and not bring much wisdom, then where do I stand? This also surprises some people and get them curious eventually asking me how old I am. when I tell them, imagine the “aha!” moment.

2. I simply have chubby cheeks. With my genetically gifted body (sense the sarcasm), one can only manage so much. When all the fats have gone, my face (the cheeks especially) will still be there. The facial hair distracts the people from looking directly at it noticing my chipmunk cheeks. I was fit 2 years ago and it lasted for about 8 months more and it sucks but what can a middle-aged man do?

I’m also quite torn. Whether performing, hosting, or speaking with clients, people say that it is “corporate” to be neat, same as some women say clean and neat is always good. Then there are some who find the scruffy look more appealing, that it adds character to a person. The term “fear the beard” is not only to put terror on other people but I believe this as a difference in presence. Then again, there are my parents and wife saying that the ‘stache gives my baby facial rashes, when I kiss them it’s “itchy” on the face. It looks cool on photos, makes me look manly and adds a little something extra for my overall look. These things make it hard to decide…Plus, I forgot that it is tremendously painful to shave every after 2 days. Women who shave armpits and crotches will know this, so do men with my same dilemma. It is also expensive on razors.

So here we are. I need to know and basically just want to hear your opinions and suggestions on which is better. Lately, the facial hair has gained back its popularity and I was one of the blessed ones to be able to grow it. It is just difficult to keep up. I am the type who feels that I need to do something different with my look after (maximum) of 2 months.

Is it better grown and groomed or clean and shaved?

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Bb. Pilipinas-Universe 2002 Nina Alagao made remarks on Toni Gonzaga hosting the recent Bb. Pilipinas Pageant

In the recent issue on the comments of Bb. Pilipinas-Universe 2002 Nina Alagao kind of did a head-shot for host- Toni Gonzaga’s with how the seasoned host approached the pageant. Mixed reactions coming from the public was demonstrated on social media of course creating a fiasco between haters and fans.

As a host myself, I understand both Nina and Toni. Toni probably was being herself and possibly had gotten carried away with her efforts trying to help the contestants relax and entertaining the audience / viewers at the same time. Of course for some, the pageant is seen as classy and prestigeous, and the antics may not be completely appropriate for the occasion. Though there’s no harm in a little humor or putting a little touch of entertainment in the matter, it should be done classlily. How? That really depends on the situation. What Toni has done, has been done, and to her defense, if this approach was not the direction of the organizers, then they should have managed it somehow. In a way, I would rather put the pressure on the organizers for not seeing how this ended.

On the other hand, Nina’s comments also had good points. She might have bashed Toni somehow by stating some pasts facts but it was driving to the point that she might have been humiliating a contestant unknowingly and for a pageant. A lot of people might be sensitive about this which she (Toni) should have been aware of. To Toni’s fans, automatically it became offensive though we all know that they’re fans and it is a natural reaction just by saying something about their idol but they mostly missed the facts and points Nina mentioned – that these weren’t personal attacks but remarks based on a performance which in the first place was inappropriate.

Putting on the shoes of a host has (almost) the same pressure of being the contestant. The difference is – there is no pressure in winning.

Everything that a host says in any event is crucial. One wrong prounciation and everybody notices. Not practicing your script well, the blocking and timing, the sequence most especially, makes a host truly unprofessional. So if people think it’s easy, it’s really not, but being invited to do the honors of hosting this prestigious event means you are worthy enough of class, talent/skill and credibility to pull it off. Basically, you are expected not to fail unlike the contestants that are trained and still young and still have a lot to learn. I doubt that there is a professional beauty pageant contestant.

Bottomline, there is no perfect contestant. If there were, then she’d be our hero to represent the country. Hosts are a totally different skillset and have other expectations. The pageant is not just a gig, it’s a privilege that you take seriously (not by taking away the fun factor but classily).

All I can say about this is, regardless of what you see or what we do, not everyone can host, definitely, not everyone can host-well. So just like Nina Alagao said, before we say or do anything, let’s do a self check. You can’t say your technique is bad form when you are not (and to some, never have) performing it yourself.

If I asked you, have you read so much in a few hours, you’d probably just laugh at me because I know a lot of you are bookworms. If I asked you though, have you read so much in a few hours…aloud…in public…in front of high achieving doctors and distiguished individuals, would you have the same reaction? 

I am proud for accomplishing such given the night of March 11, 2015. 

On the date I mentioned, I was referred by a highschool batchmate / friend, Donna to be the host of their self-organized event. Health & Lifestyle (or (H&L) is the only magazine for doctors, and this day recognized extraordinary individuals, groups and organizations that advocate a healthy lifestyle – The Exemplar Awards 2015. 



It was a night of celebrating and recognizing outstanding achievers in their fields and advocacy in bringing information and education to the public on a better lifestyle. It was an honor to have been a part of it. 

Words may not be enough to explain or honor these idividuals (group and organizations)  on the work they do to help other people and the industry but I did so in introducing them. I literaly did. Normally, I’d be asked to adlib or get spontaneous but that night was information-filled, a bit too much of what I could probably handle. I was responsible for a script filled with important names and terminologies (some of which I couldn’t even pronounce) that I had to perform (not just read out) so we don’t bore the audience to death. Being an announcer (before) and an experienced voice-over talent, I used everything I’ve got. I had to stress out items, sound off intonation for lines and read out things with modulated voice, and did I mention I had to perform this and not just read out? 



I’m used to speaking with long durations in a program but reading off of a script was a challenge. It requires mental focus a good, consistent pace in breathing and a lot more of both. A program, as I’ve mentioned in my other blog posts is chaotic, especially if it involves impromptu guests and changes in lineup of the program. These elements were also present and made it more challenging. Something that I’m also used to, but combining all those were a level up for me…ACHIEVEMENT UNLOCKED! I was at some point losing some of the pronounciations of names, terms and words but stammering and coming back to your mistakes will just make me look unprofessional. Most of the time, with a program like this, guests attention are not 100% so I left the event seemingly unscathed. There may be other people who could’ve pulled it off better but for me, it was an experience I can definitely learn from. I’m just glad my experience as a host helped my composure, my mental awareness and endurance to get through it. These things help me become better, experiencing these give me an edge to those who get it easy. 

At the end of the night, I was met with smiles, a lot of handshakes and “good job” congratulations. It feels good that it was still appreciated and had good feedback. I rated my own performance about 70% that night but the reactions and feedback made me rethink. Screw that, I prefer the smiles and handshakes. It feels good to be appreciated. It motivates me to be at my best all the time.



Congratulations again to the FAME team and thank you for having me. I hope to work with guys again.

If you have worked with me before, you might have heard me say that I have tried to avoid wedding gigs because I (used to) dread them. The intimacy and close-personal relationship of the guests to each other challenges me and basically, I thought I just didn’t want to ruin a family occasion. Ones that are recorded on video, ones that you bring along your memory until you grow old….”that’s the host that screwed up my wedding” type of thing.

Lately, I seem to have grown passed that and if you’ve also read my other blog entries, I’m beginning to enjoy it. It just dawned on me that I was actually the one creating the moments. I AM THE MASTER OF CEREMONIES (pardon the shameless plugging). Regardless of how a bride and a wedding planner envisions the event, it is up to me how to make it better…or worse. The timing, the lines I say, that mostly are spontaneous, create these moments, and I just thank the Big Guy up there for giving me this talent (if any) to do somethingnreally special formother people.

Yesterday, March 14 2015, I celebrated with the Pizzaro family. It was yet a hurdle I haven’t passed through in my life. It wasn’t the usual wedding, or a corporate party. They were celebrating a surprise party for Jessie Pizzaro on his 60th.

Remember when I said how I used to dread intimate occasions? This is a very good example. It was a very tight crowd of 30 guests consisting of family and close friends. With that much people, messing up a portion or sequence is highly noticeable. In a crowd of a thousand, I can create an illusion that I am staring at each one of them and engaging everyone. With a smaller crowd, I had to try to satisfy each one (or so I thought I should). I’m quite critical on myself and my performance. I have a certain level of quality that I expect from my profession especially with myself. If I had 1000 guests, I want to make sure they listen. All the more pressure to keep the attention of 30 guests, like in statistics, the smaller the quantity, the higher ratio of proportion is expected. I am quite used to adlibs but people are different from each other and like/dislike different things.

So as I was hoping, guests could arrive before the surprise so I can whip up a pretty good spiel. I was also praying that the guests were game enough to participate. Both were tough on me. Though part of me was really expecting that older people won’t really be as game, I just really wanted everyone to have fun. So I did my usual adlib punchlines, people laughed. When I asked them to say something special for Jessie, our celebrant, they did, and it was quite touching because Jessie was a crowd favorite. A Pieces if you are familar with the traits are very loyal. They pick the right people to be with and make them feel as comfortable as much as they can. They take emotions of their friends as their own and empathize soemtimes way too much. This was what I noticed evryone was telling him as they greeted him a happy birthday. When I finally got to warm up, I forgot all my worries. Everything went well.

Then we played some games.

Just like children’s games, I wanted them to enjoy each others’ company. The things you don’t usually do, these same things that you spend with friends and let you go out of your comfort zones are experiences never forgotten. I knew most of them are shy, even with incentives but the power of love and fun can change things and I hope I was able create this memorable moment with them. This I believe is what party should be all about…not the bass.

I have overcome 2 things that day. 1. I won’t doubt myself of screwing up a momentous occasion. I realized that as long as I stick with my objective of bringing memorable moments to my client friends, there’s nothing more special I can offer..and 2. Smaller crowds should not scare me anymore for the same reason as #1. I passed that hurdle lighthearted. I am lucky to be in the presence of a family that truly cares for someone and that I think was the highlight of my day.

To Jessie, a happy 60th and I wish you good health and wonderful company. To the Pizzaro family, thank you for the wonderful experience and for welcoming me to this occasion.

Affordable, discounted, free!

These are some of the words that make the rest of the world blur out when we see it. As a consumer, a client or a customer, we are always on our toes for the best deal to get our money’s worth.

Last night, something dawned on me, something I never thought would happen. I went out with my colleagues to my brother’s (Jc) burger joint, the Bad Boys of Burger- The Burgery. On the same night, our other friends came over to hangout with my brother. I, of course came over to say hi and chatted a bit. On one topic, one of our friends Rj Bautista, (RP bowling team champion) mentioned that he suggested me to their friends who were about to get married. He followed up with a side story – they researched about me, probably googled my name to checkout my credentials. I was not aware that since I put up this blog site (moxxthehost.wordpress.com), my street creds sky-rocketed. The last time I googled myself, I only came up with JC de Vera articles and photos. My Instagram account, facebook (private) profile, youtube web shows and other videos and photos were now available.

With all this, and maybe if they had discovered my affiliation with my brother, made me look unaffordable. I mean, I don’t even have a fancy website nor a following. How could I possibly be expensive to hire?

As a professional talent, we’d normally gauge our rate depending on the skill set needed and how in-demand we are. If I get double booked on the same day, I can dictate my rate as how we learned it in economics supply and demand. The more skills or talent or time required of us, we might need to charge extra. For the celebrities who use themselves as property ambassadors, anytime an entity will use their name, appearance, talent for profit gain can charge a good amount. Usually if there are record labels, network management, or sponsors involved. I do not (but I wish I did) take any part of that.

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To tell you all honestly, and this is not in any way selling myself short, I am affordable. I am not a seasoned emcee and I do not categorize myself as that yet. What I can tell you is I am not cheap either. Cheap and affordable are two different things. I mentioned in my earlier blog entry (see What Makes a Good Host / Emcee) that a talent is not an element you want to invest in last. Hiring someone cheap or asking a friend to do this for you have different results that hiring a professional. I am not well-known to charge so much but I’m not just someone who you grab out of a crowd and force to talk as a favor either.

I do my job passionately because I like being in the spotlight. It may not be my story but all eyes are on me for just about the time I have the microphone.

To some, a hosting job is just a way to earn money. When you do it so often and for too long, you forget the magic of the disappearing people beyond the spotlight.

At the end of the day, whether you’re an entrepreneur, employee or a freelancing professional, you should know your market value, your worth. This is how you work your way up the ladder unless you have no ambitions.

How many gigs can you have in a day?

In a professional talent’s life, it’s inevitable to get double, or sometimes even triple-booked in one day. I had my first just this weekend. I have hosted not one, but TWO wedding receptions. It was awesome. I knew it was going to be a challenge physically and mentally but when I finally got home, I felt a sense of accomplishment.

Gig 1: Mr. & Mrs. Jed and Nori Labastida

Jed and NoriIt was a slow morning at Legend Villas. I was asked to be there by 10am. I got caught in traffic and was afraid to have my first late entrance for a gig (as a professional, I never want to be late). So to set everyone’s expectations, I communicated with the coordinator that I am running late. I knew they can’t do anything about it but at least I want to set their expectations if ever I arrive late, though I don’t want that to happen. When I finally got out of the jam, it was a breeze from Magallanes to Mandaluyong. When I got to The Legend Villas, my first venue, I was surprised that I made it before the guests. Apparently, they all started a bit late and got into some traffic situation themselves. So I was totally safe. So the program went on…Jed and Nori, the couple had invited relatives from Masbate which made the afternoon special sharing it with relatives that made a worthwhile trip to celebrate this wonderful day.

It was a small crowd, an intimate, loving one. You can easily feel the closeness of their guests with the bride and groom. Every moment that passed by meant the world to Jed and Nori. There was nothing less of that reception. What it lacked in numbers were filled with happiness for the bride and groom. Jed and Nori was made for each other from the start. You can see it all over. This wedding may have been due for a long time but in their hearts, you can tell that they’ve always been married to each other.

To Jed and Nori, congratulations. When we met when I helped you with your wedding reception program, I felt this deep appreciation that giving you my insights weren’t just that. When I realized what it meant to you guys, it meant more to me.



No one really knows where they’re headed when preparing for a wedding. Wedding planners might have an idea, but they know it from the outside. I-myself may be used to a program but the real emotions you get during your own wedding is just magical. . .

Gig #2: Mr.&Mrs. Paolo and Kim Mendoza

The earlier crowd was intimate. I was not quite ready with what came next. When I met the Kim and Paolo, I forgot that they mentioned they were expecting about 400 guests. It did not register then in my head how big that was until I saw the venue myself at Enderun College tent.

From the garden wedding that happened with the sunset effect, I knew I was in for a good fight. It’s like a boxing match finding out your opponent is 5 feet taller than you. When the guests started pouring in, I can barely see faces from halfway onto the reception venue.

Addressing a wedding crowd is challenging. You are faced with people coming from different personalities, culture, expectations, level of society and intellect. I was like Eminem getting ready for battle on his move 8 Mile. So when it was time to hit the stage, I knew I had to kick it into high gear. I kept my energy up as I was running on reserved energy (c/o a can of Monster Energy Drink), while wondering how long I can keep this up. It was a fairly tough crowd. For one, I’m pretty sure people all the way at the back can barely see or hear me so I’m guessing they didn’t bother to listen. I threw everything I got, questions, jokes, I was almost at a point where I was going to threaten them just to react (hehe kidding). Luckily, God was at my side and I got their attention before dinner was announced.

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I was always sure I can get the crowd once I worked the games, and that I did. It was really hard to see the reaction of each of 400 guests but I get some smiles and laughter every now and then. That was enough to motivate me and move forward. The show must go on.

Moving along, I was surprised how I eventually warmed up to the crowd and breezed through the program. I closed the program with good enough applause working like tips on a subway busker but I would not gauge my performance because of that. I knew 400 guests won’t easily listen but even so, I know I brought the house down. At the very least, the bride and groom enjoyed it. Client’s satisfaction is most important.

When I host, I always say… all weddings are the same. It has a ceremony, a reception, the entourage, traditions, speeches. What makes it special to each newlyweds are their stories and the people they share it with. No matter how big or small a wedding is, the people who make you happy are all in one place, that’s all that should matter. At the end of the day, it’s just going to be the bride and groom in their own little world.

Congrats to Jed & Nori and Paolo and Kim. Your love stories trancends you both. Keep each other as husband and wife as you have done since early in you relationships.

All productions have had booboos. If I haven’t repeatedly talked about the chaos in directing an event, well…there’s not much more I ccan say, it’s the reality of it. Speaking of booboos, I ran into mine last night. It’s nothing majorly embarassing but it’s definitely a story for the books.

In my years of hosting, I’m used to getting calls from random people at random times in the day (and wee hours), and sometimes with random requests. I would just qualify it normally with the price, length and the concept. Anything that violates my principles as a person and a professional, I would likely turn down.
So the story goes…

I was contacted by an event director who I’ve worked with before. She got me once as a host to my biggest crowd ever (1000 or more at Araneta Colesium) and have tested my hosting chops then, she’d also call me in sometimes for a voice-over job and most times I wouldn’t be able to do it to balance my day job with hosting which at the moment is still a weekend thing. Normally she’d ask me if I were free on the date to book me and gove me details later. Having to jug my weekday meetings and gig on the weekend, I totally forgot to ask the full details on her booking: when, where, what and how. So I shot a text asap and got the date, time and venue. After which I remembered to ask the attire. She said to come in business casual when I knew the venue was a big hotel. So I thought, maybe it’s a laid-back gig. So I assumed I’ll ne hosting guests at the hotel or something. Then I asked the titel of the show. It was for a major consumer children’s milk brand add guests were doctors, midwives and nurses. So I thought, what the heck…

IMG_0171The next day, I thought I’d dress up nice anyway since I had meetings that day. If I overdress, then I wouldn’t mind standing out because I will be on stage. So I suited up in the most casual way.
When I got called in at 3pm, I checked out the venue. It was big, it was cool and was not short of amazing. The director was busy with last minute rehearsals of the lights and sounds production so I patiently situated myself near the techbooth and waived to the team to let them know I’ve arrived. A few minutes after, one of the team approached me with a thick stack of stapled bond paper. I smiled back and read through it. It showed a lot of “AOB” and long speaking lines. While I tried to figure out which one my part was, I saw somewhere towards the half of the script saying “introduce host – Mr. Piolo Pascual”… And right on queue, someone handed me the mic…a wired one.

My brain hanged like pentium 4 on Windows 8. I wasn’t the host afterall.

So to cut the long story short, my lesson learned is to always ask questions when you are not sure. Never assume anything. As a professional Emcee, you have to be assertive. Even if you already are sure, it doesn’t hurt to reiterate.

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We’ve all been to weddings and me, some more. When you step into my shoes, you’d think you’ve seen it all. A beautiful bride’s teary eyes walking down the aisle , a dashing groom’s too-wide smile, the bridesmaids holding each others’ hands smitten, the proud parents, the works.

From an emcee’s point of view, it seems all the same. It’s another wedding day. I got surprised that my reaction to this was different. I shared this moment with the celebrants, it was overwhelming. That blessed Saturday, i was not #thehost but a #weddingguest.

If you know what a host goes through during events, the chaos, the backstage clutter, the fast-pacing organizers, a never-ending backstage moment, you kind of lose-touch of what a wedding day feels like. On a normal day, I would accept a hosting job in a heartbeat, I love my role as an emcee but that Saturday, I wanted to be in the backseat for once. I have repeatedly called in the entourage, and of course the bride and groom but I never thought I’d be as excited being part of it, now that I’ve delved into the world of weddings and nuptials and however you may call it.

I’ve known most of my best friend Jr’s history and seeing him through this day made that extra special. And just as special, I’ve only met Hannah on that day because our schedules never met, nonetheless, I am very glad to know how happy they make each other. On a side note, being in an 4 all-men click, we weren’t really as fond of taking our photos together unless it’s a very special occasion. It made me/ us realize how much time we’ve lost and all the best memories of moments that passed that we never got to record we’ll never recover…

So going back to this wedding…

You know those same-day edit videos that they show during the reception? I always thought the smiles on the takes are just fabricated by the photographer/director. I was (and glad to be) very wrong. The smiles that come out may have been induced by the photographers but what comes out are real moments, real emotions, and shared happiness that radiates toward the viewers. I can’t explain it either but you can only understand it once you’re there. You can just be that happy for your friends about to get married.

IMG_0082There were 4 tomcats, Francis, Cuki, Jr (the recent groom) and myself. We’re now down to Francis and I and we can’t wait for the next big event that will bring us together as men and wives.

IMG_0087To Hannah, you are wonderful. Your energy is beautiful. You have good, loving and supportive friends and family which is always the best to feel like home when you start a good family. We may have spoken very few times and have seen each other only once but I can get a person during their best and worst times. I’ve seen the best (and happiest) and I do not wish to know the worst. To Jr, “tsong”…you’ve been around when I needed you guys and you’re always ready to support. You may not know how to dance but you’ve done it for your bride so I’m guessing it’s a win-win for everyone. Do not let your fear of feathery friends come between you and your wife, it just takes some thick clothing and probably a stick to get rid of them. You’ve proven to do your best when you put your mind into it so I’m sure you’ll make a great husband and father. Always hold your head up high…why…no comment on that.

An Emcees role is to lead everyone to the program. Let God be your Emcee and let Him lead the way. I totally enjoyed being in your entourage as much as I do hosting on other days. Congratulations and I’m always here for you both.

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I would have loved being your host but why ruin an already perfect wedding? No regrets there.

. Congratulations and I’m always here for you both. p.s. I would have loved to be your host but why ruin an already perfect wedding? No regrets there.

JR and Hannah by Nicolai Melicor

An emotional, physical, mental and spiritual rollercoaster. It’s an everyday adventure. You meet and speak with different people, breathe different air everytime. An overall sensory experience.

Each year I get older, and my greatest takeaway from my life of 32 years is that I’ve wasted it in regrets. Last year, I took upon myself that I face my new year in a different perspective. I embraced my faults and weaknesses and strengthen all the good times with good memories. I make the most of every moment. I may not have had enough money to go places, do things, but I always walk away from moments with deep remembrance.

I have learned a couple of things to self-motivate. In my darkest times, the hardest challenges, you have to make choices. It is up to you to suffer or walk on. There were times I’ve dwelled but I made a choice to survive.

Each memory serves as a page of a book I learn from and These knowledge I’ve been happy to share.

To everyone who has been there for me, have stuck around because you know my worth, to the ones who have entrusted their emotions to me, to those who have had undying patience in waiting for me to learn and mature, to those whom I’ve hurt but have forgiven me, those people whom I may have neglected but are still seeing me through, to all the times I couldn’t show up and hangout with you and spend time….THANK YOU. From 32years and beyond, I give out my sincerest thanks and praises to everyone with (or even those who are not with) me for completing who I am.

Now Dear Lord, let’s get on with the next 32 years

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imageBeing associated to a public figure has its ups and downs. Being a brother to one has more. This entry is the answer to most of your questions that I am willing to share, to share no more.

I’ve been thrown a lot of related questions but that one line bowls me over and for almost a decade now, I still do not know what to answer to… “Bakit ikaw, hindi mag-artista?” (In english- why don’t you also become an actor?)

While it is fun, has lots of perks, and sharing the attention isn’t so bad. There are people who are just giddy about this fact and I dont’t want to take this away from them but at the same time, some can’t hold their excitement that my personal space has been invaded time and again.

If your brainwave is short, reading this might get you thinking I have low self-esteem or bitterness or just plain ranting. Please. I’ve gone through a lot to still experience that. For the life of me, I really do not like explaining it and neither do I want to discuss it for a million reasons but let me explain some…

1. It is an awkward disposition. If I did say I wanted to and didn’t get to become one, does it make me less or more of a person? Believe me, I’ve tried. If you’ve known me since college, you’d know how much I’ve tried. Also, admitting that I’d like to be in showbiz may make me seem like I am worthy of it. Some don’t think so…If I did deserve to be in showbiz, I probably would’ve been in it with the opportunities that I had. Which brings me to my next point…

2. I’ve been through different channels and I’ve had no support. Maybe because of some reasons I gave in #1. And again, believe me, I am not looking down on myself or have low confidence and shit. If things aren’t for you, it just isnt. I’ve been on radio, TV commercials, even on TV shows, but none of it was enough to get noticed. You need the right connections and exposure to get there. Apparently, I don’t.

3. The camera adds 10lbs. You know that sounds cliché and overused? No it’s not. When you see these actors on TV, you’d think their body is just the right proportion. They are actually smaller, or fitter or slimmer in person. Same effect to the fat ones, they are probably exactly or more than how they appear. In print, you can be photoshopped. Unless your makeup artist is also a sorcerer, that’s not gonna help you in front of the camera. Point is, I was chubby back then (probably even now) and my chemistry with the camera never took off.

4. It just doesnt work that way. You may have seen dynasties of showbiz family and how big actors can easily bring in their siblings or children into the glam world of showbiz. Not unless a prominent public figure completely surrender themselves and their privacy to the public, it is unlikely to happen. Not because your brother is an actor, you can have the same opportunity.

5. We (reader and I) might just not be that close for me to explain all this, and that is self-explanatory. You may settle for the reasons stated above. Should I have shared more, then it means I trust you with the details of my life and you are a good friend.

Do not get me wrong. I normally laugh about this and this “Million-Dollar Question” is something I get asked 2-3x average in a week and have been used to this. I’m not someone special to get this type of attention. I just feel like I have to make people understand that it’s not such a big deal compared to how they percieve the situation. Again, I don’t want to take it away from them but some just cross the line.

the reality of my everyday life: I commute on a daily basis, meaning I dont own a car. I rarely get to buy my own clothes. I get a P40 haircut and apply my own hair treatment. I don’t have the capacity to buy luxury items. I don’t get facials and neither do I have credits for an expensive fitness center. I have a good-paying job that pays the bills but is barely relevant to get noticed anywhere. I work on credits to feed my family and children. I am thankful for hand-me-down clothes and shoes from my brother. Other stuff I get to enjoy are sponsored or won sonewhere. I don’t dine out in fancy restaurants unless I get invited to it nor do I spend to get drunk in expensive bars. My latest iPhone was bought by my mom as a birthday gift but paid for half of it in installments. I am a normal guy trying to get by every day just like the rest of us as opposed to contrary belief, associated to a family name. Regardless of how much anyone earns, they are not obligated to provide luxury to anyone else. It is up to their generosity and good heart that they even share what they have, and care enough to make the ones they care for comfortable and help them live in comfort.

May I add how totally rude I find this (again) usual dialogue:

Person: where’s your car?

Me: I dont own one

Person: Really? Isn’t your brother an actor? Why doesnt he buy you one?

Me: (at this point, I normally just shrug or try to walk out of the conversation or answer in all honesty) why should be obligated to buy me one?

Person: because you’re his older brother

Me: all the more he should get me one. I could and should afford my own.

Person: (still doesnt get it up to this point)

I can’t understand why this is hard to understand? Anyway, bottomline is the Million-Dollar questions has a simple answer, things are just meant to be. Any more or any less is what God has for you and either you be contented with it or you go get yours.

For those who have celebrity friends or friends to celebrity siblings or affiliation, you get this. For those who don’t have any, please understand the person at the other end of your questions.

Whew…that quickly turned into a rant blog but I guess it’s best to educate.